Hello Lovelies! Welcome back!, Today I’m going to list some ways to rebuild your self confidence. Dealing with low self confidence or self esteem is a common thing that almost everyone has had to overcome. Your self-esteem/ self confidence could be low because of hearing negative things about yourself consistently at a young age, from failed love relationship(s), from a mental illness, or even a traumatic event that happened to you. It doesn’t matter where it stems from, I’m here to tell you that every negative thing you think about yourself is FALSE!! Yeah, I said it, it’s “fake news”! The only thing making your thoughts about yourself true is you! You are giving your negative thoughts power by believing in them. these tips can begin to wipe the slate clean and give you a chance at remaking the negative image that you created in your head.
These are 4 easy ways to rebuild your self esteem , they are simple and they work. Remember, it took time for you to solidify these negative thoughts into your subconscious so they won’t go away in a day, but they can be broken down layer by layer.
Guess who’s Bizzack! It’s me positive affirmations!!
You knew I was gonna say this, I talk about positive affirmations in almost every single post on this site and I’m not ashamed. Positive affirmations are the easiest and simplest way to give your brain a new narrative. You’ve created this narrative in your head of
“my nose is too big”, “I’m worthless”, “I can’t do anything right”, “nobody likes me” or “I’m ugly” and you replay this narrative all day and every day. Your brain is tuned into 101.5 the channel for negative vibes and you don’t know how to change the station at this point in your life. Positive affirmations help with that, I’ve been doing positive affirmations for about 10 months and they have definitely raised my self-esteem, self-confidence, helped with my depression and also helped with my determination to achieve greater things. Positive affirmations work if you say them out loud! So find a place where you can be alone and undisturbed and go H.A.M (harder then a m*tha) on yourself! ” “I am beautiful”, “I am kind”, ” I am capable of great and noteworthy things!” You can scream these things at the top of your lungs or you can whisper them, idc just as long as positive words come out of your mouth.
I love doing this! Because I just like being stubborn at this point in my life. Thought bombing is like doing positive affirmations on crack. I say whatever I need to in order to make myself feel better that is what thought bombing is!Anytime you hear a negative thought pop in your mind, you have 2 or more positive comebacks for it. Example:
Your negative thought: “i can’t do anything right”
Positive affirmation on crack: “This isn’t true! I am gifted and talented” ” I can do anything I put my mind to” “I won’t allow myself to be discouraged, I’m better than I believe!”
Thought bombing is mixed with the positive affirmations as a way to retrain your brain. You will begin to stand up against the negativity you previously believed in. Thought bombing creates strength and courage, Doing this will also give you the strength to stand up against the negativity others tend to force upon your life. Thought bombing gives the adding benefit of building boundaries for yourself. Once you stop allowing yourself to cave into negative self hate talk, you wont allow yourself to take it from anyone else, trust me.
Do something new
Doing this can help you find out some new talents you didn’t know you had. I suggest trying something, anything new! What I do is go on Eventbrite and look up random stuff whether it be a seminar, cooking classes, chess classes or even a walking event. It can help you to get out of your comfort zone into a new atmosphere. Sometimes talking to new people and learning new things can give you a new found appreciation for yourself. Doing things you didn’t know you had the aptitude for can help a lot when you start to list things you appreciate about yourself. I understand that covid 19 has ruined everyone’s social life so this might not be completely doable depending on your state. An alternative to this is going on youtube and trying out the ” how to” videos they have posted. Pick something you feel you always wanted to try to do and search for it. im 99.99% sure youtube has a video show you how to do it.
Write down the good about yourself….
Write down the good about yourself. Depending on the level of self esteem you have, there can be some of you that have nothing to write. I was like this at first, do not be ashamed, that can and will change. Sometimes we forget that we have a nice smile, or that we put on the brave face of “ Im ok” to make other people laugh. Sometimes we forget that we are awesome creatures. You should write down a list, even if you only write down one thing the first day it’s still something. And if you asked others to write down something about you add their comments to the list. And please I beg of you don’t ask those who were originally responsible for hurting you, their opinion means nothing to us at this point and we don’t need validation or approval from toxic people. I’ve made a cute self esteem worksheet for you fill out if you choose.
Don’t worry you got this!!
Realize that your self esteem is dependant on you, it is your responsibility, no body or thing, or event is going help you escape putting in the work to better your self perception. Self esteem is an internal struggle that we all deal with on a daily basis. There are certain things we go through that can shatter our self esteem and confidence. That’s how life is, nobody goes through this thing called life unscathed. But we always have “now” to change our perspective. I leave you with some tools for growth and a quote. Alright lovelies, stay strong and stay blessed!
“Happiness is not something ready made, it comes from your own actions.”The Dali Lama
Dont forget to check out my other posts dealing with mental health and other topics.
If your having a really tough time coping here are some other websites that can help : https://healthyselfesteem.org/ https://www.girlshealth.gov/feelings/happy/rate.html https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/self-esteem/about-self-esteem/